That cracks me up that you love the Met gala. I’ve been following you I think, at least from Vermont. I believe I saw you move there though so maybe before?!? You think you know someone!! Thanks for keeping it fresh!
Goodness, it’s heartening (or disappointing? cringe worthy? this requires overthinking..) to hear that the monogamous lesbian online dating experience is the same in New York as it is on an island off the coast of south west BC. I wish my tender heart could handle being poly, I’d have nothing but luck 🤭
I just want to be clear I have zero issues with people being poly in their own consenting relationships. For some people, it saves marriages and keeps family together, especially with people realizing their sexuality later in life. My qualm is couples or poly folks using lesbian-specific spaces or finding random monogamous lesbians and not being honest and upfront about their intentions.
Sometimes it is deceptive on purpose, other times they don't even read profiles and swipe on anyone within 30 miles. It's really disheartening living in a rural area and having 5 dating apps to cast a wide net and every day, all day, the only bites are married couples. Makes me want to scream. Which is why I just have Hinge, because it's the most lesbian one, but even there, 90% of people are just looking for distraction from a miserable marriage they can't afford to leave and are too scared to change and I'd rather become a hermit then get involved with that,.
Yes, I feel the same. Folks choosing a poly lifestyle is fantastic, for them. Couples wanting to spice up the bedroom with a third, go for it. My issue is also the murkiness of navigating trying to find a single, stable, emotionally available lesbian and finding mostly couples looking for what we call here a ‘unicorn’ or a third to join them. There are mismatch in what I am utilizing the app for versus what it’s providing.
I think in your reading your stance was clear. You’re not shaming anyone’s lifestyle choices, just frustrated with being offered apps to help you find what you need and not having the need met at all. I feel this in my soul from the other side of the continent ❤️
Well if it makes you feel any better I am loudly, publicly, single and I’ve been asked out once by a woman in my life. The rest was all trying too hard on my end.
That cracks me up that you love the Met gala. I’ve been following you I think, at least from Vermont. I believe I saw you move there though so maybe before?!? You think you know someone!! Thanks for keeping it fresh!
I love the red carpet and the costume wing of the Met!
Goodness, it’s heartening (or disappointing? cringe worthy? this requires overthinking..) to hear that the monogamous lesbian online dating experience is the same in New York as it is on an island off the coast of south west BC. I wish my tender heart could handle being poly, I’d have nothing but luck 🤭
I just want to be clear I have zero issues with people being poly in their own consenting relationships. For some people, it saves marriages and keeps family together, especially with people realizing their sexuality later in life. My qualm is couples or poly folks using lesbian-specific spaces or finding random monogamous lesbians and not being honest and upfront about their intentions.
Sometimes it is deceptive on purpose, other times they don't even read profiles and swipe on anyone within 30 miles. It's really disheartening living in a rural area and having 5 dating apps to cast a wide net and every day, all day, the only bites are married couples. Makes me want to scream. Which is why I just have Hinge, because it's the most lesbian one, but even there, 90% of people are just looking for distraction from a miserable marriage they can't afford to leave and are too scared to change and I'd rather become a hermit then get involved with that,.
Yes, I feel the same. Folks choosing a poly lifestyle is fantastic, for them. Couples wanting to spice up the bedroom with a third, go for it. My issue is also the murkiness of navigating trying to find a single, stable, emotionally available lesbian and finding mostly couples looking for what we call here a ‘unicorn’ or a third to join them. There are mismatch in what I am utilizing the app for versus what it’s providing.
I think in your reading your stance was clear. You’re not shaming anyone’s lifestyle choices, just frustrated with being offered apps to help you find what you need and not having the need met at all. I feel this in my soul from the other side of the continent ❤️
Well if it makes you feel any better I am loudly, publicly, single and I’ve been asked out once by a woman in my life. The rest was all trying too hard on my end.
It doesn’t make me feel better, I genuinely hope you find your person. I think you deserve it more than most.
That’s a generous thing to say to a person, and I wish you the same ☺️