I so glad you did another late bloomer story. I’ve missed them. I came out as bi as a college kid 😂. I developed a massive crush on a friend and was like WTF is this. Never made a move. I did date someone for a bit who turned out to be married. She was older. Well that’s relative right. I was 19 she was 25 or so. Then I got married to a great guy who was fine with me having female partners. That only happened once and it didn’t last. We are very close friends tho.
I did have another almost relationship except she was way in the closet. Way way in and still kind of is, even tho she’s had a “roommate” on and off for years.
She’s the reason tho, that I came all the way out 2 years ago and pushed through the final painful stages of a divorce from a terrible second marriage. Here’s that story.
We met in college and connected over our deviant behavior class. 🤣🤣🤣 She was an education major who ended up becoming a cop and I was a political science major who never made it to law school.
We never did anything more than kiss but wow.
We graduated and went separate ways. This was before cell phones and before Facebook and all that.
Years later I was with my 2nd husband and heard her voice across a crowded concert hall lobby at of all things, and Indigo Girls concert. We exchanged numbers and became Facebook friends. We intended to get together but never did. Years and years went by. We never talked but were aware of each others lives via the internet.
Fast forward to fall 2022.
I’d raised 2 kids and had a teenager at home. And separated on and off from my husband and just couldn’t extricate myself. Lots of guilt and worry about breaking up my family. All bullshit by the way!
I was with him at a fall event for the local SPCA and I’m at a booth looking at cute dogs stuff and I hear her voice behind me say ‘Angela’ it was her! This time we set a date to meet up. I don’t give it much thought and was genuinely just thrilled to see and old friend. Then it happened
I was sitting in the porch of our local cidery and I saw her walking up the sidewalk and my heartbeat went wild and I knew. I just knew!!!
We talked and talked went to diner and didn’t want it to end.
We left the restaurant and stood on the sidewalk she answered a text and then gave me a sly look. I leaned in and she kissed me and my world went upside down.
I came home that day and told my husband we were done. His drinking had never stopped, my daughter didn’t even want her dad around and I realized I am GAY!!
I had hopes of a life with this woman and that didn’t work. She’s still closeted and has so many issues. We had one magical weekend in Charleston to see the Indigo Girls no less lol. OMG. Two nights of being out and day and all that and then she ghosted me.
It hurt. I’d planned a trip for her 50th birthday and she stood me up.
Anyway. Things work out for a reason. She was my catalyst and I’m forever grateful!
I’m so lucky to have an amazing partner. My daughter is happy and thriving and is also out and proud. We are going to Busch Gardens Pride together tomorrow with her girlfriend.
I so so soooo appreciate folks coming into the comments to share their stories! Thank you! I feel like this sort of thing happens all the time, it's practically every sad sapphic song, but when everything lines up it's insanely magical! I'm sorry about the heartache, but you seem so much happier?!
Thank you for this latest story. I SO SO love listening to you share them. When I was a junior in college I came down with Mono and was sent home to get well. All I could think about was the lovely girl that I wouldn't see at the change of classes in the business building. Lying there in bed in a sick induced delirium I accepted that I was a queer little southern girl. I then proceeded to shut that down for another 6 years. Fast forward to working in a corporate manufacturing job (no homos allowed there) and my favorite thing to do was going to the gym, so I took a part time job there even though I didn't need the money and met my first girlfriend. She was very mysterious and charismatic and drove a 1963 Mercedes roadster and she took an interest in the button down christian girl working the front desk. Did I mention that she also slept with a gun under her mattress? Geez what a coming out. One night after I closed down the gym and we hung out a while after that, I drove the 30 minutes to my parent's house where I was living again. This was in the country. As I got close to home, I felt uncomfortable about the distance the car behind me had been keeping so I past my driveway and went on a mile or so up the road to a turn about. The car behind me did the same thing. I drove slowly hoping they would pass me before I would come to the next turn around so I could get to my house, but they didn't. They followed me on that turn too. By that time, I was really scared, so I sped up and got to my dirt road driveway and went as fast as I could to get to my house. I busted in the door and went to my parent's room and told them that someone was following me. They called the sheriff, who by the way lived just up the road. The man that had followed me had gotten stuck because the dirt road has drop offs. The sheriff talked to him and he gave some story about being lost. My parents didn't know that I was gay at the time, so they didn't know the extra level of fear I was experiencing because I was pretty certain that man had followed me because he saw me with my girlfriend in the parking lot. That was 1994. Wow, that's not what I thought I was going to say when I started typing.
Thank you for sharing! I liked reading through this, and following that crush to fear tale. I know what it's like to be watched with another woman in public like you're either a fetish or a threat, luckily no one ever followed us home but I would have driven forever to avoid that. We always have to have awareness of everyone in a public space and around us. I'm so glad you were vigilant and safe.
I so glad you did another late bloomer story. I’ve missed them. I came out as bi as a college kid 😂. I developed a massive crush on a friend and was like WTF is this. Never made a move. I did date someone for a bit who turned out to be married. She was older. Well that’s relative right. I was 19 she was 25 or so. Then I got married to a great guy who was fine with me having female partners. That only happened once and it didn’t last. We are very close friends tho.
I did have another almost relationship except she was way in the closet. Way way in and still kind of is, even tho she’s had a “roommate” on and off for years.
She’s the reason tho, that I came all the way out 2 years ago and pushed through the final painful stages of a divorce from a terrible second marriage. Here’s that story.
We met in college and connected over our deviant behavior class. 🤣🤣🤣 She was an education major who ended up becoming a cop and I was a political science major who never made it to law school.
We never did anything more than kiss but wow.
We graduated and went separate ways. This was before cell phones and before Facebook and all that.
Years later I was with my 2nd husband and heard her voice across a crowded concert hall lobby at of all things, and Indigo Girls concert. We exchanged numbers and became Facebook friends. We intended to get together but never did. Years and years went by. We never talked but were aware of each others lives via the internet.
Fast forward to fall 2022.
I’d raised 2 kids and had a teenager at home. And separated on and off from my husband and just couldn’t extricate myself. Lots of guilt and worry about breaking up my family. All bullshit by the way!
I was with him at a fall event for the local SPCA and I’m at a booth looking at cute dogs stuff and I hear her voice behind me say ‘Angela’ it was her! This time we set a date to meet up. I don’t give it much thought and was genuinely just thrilled to see and old friend. Then it happened
I was sitting in the porch of our local cidery and I saw her walking up the sidewalk and my heartbeat went wild and I knew. I just knew!!!
We talked and talked went to diner and didn’t want it to end.
We left the restaurant and stood on the sidewalk she answered a text and then gave me a sly look. I leaned in and she kissed me and my world went upside down.
I came home that day and told my husband we were done. His drinking had never stopped, my daughter didn’t even want her dad around and I realized I am GAY!!
I had hopes of a life with this woman and that didn’t work. She’s still closeted and has so many issues. We had one magical weekend in Charleston to see the Indigo Girls no less lol. OMG. Two nights of being out and day and all that and then she ghosted me.
It hurt. I’d planned a trip for her 50th birthday and she stood me up.
Anyway. Things work out for a reason. She was my catalyst and I’m forever grateful!
I’m so lucky to have an amazing partner. My daughter is happy and thriving and is also out and proud. We are going to Busch Gardens Pride together tomorrow with her girlfriend.
I so so soooo appreciate folks coming into the comments to share their stories! Thank you! I feel like this sort of thing happens all the time, it's practically every sad sapphic song, but when everything lines up it's insanely magical! I'm sorry about the heartache, but you seem so much happier?!
Thank you for this latest story. I SO SO love listening to you share them. When I was a junior in college I came down with Mono and was sent home to get well. All I could think about was the lovely girl that I wouldn't see at the change of classes in the business building. Lying there in bed in a sick induced delirium I accepted that I was a queer little southern girl. I then proceeded to shut that down for another 6 years. Fast forward to working in a corporate manufacturing job (no homos allowed there) and my favorite thing to do was going to the gym, so I took a part time job there even though I didn't need the money and met my first girlfriend. She was very mysterious and charismatic and drove a 1963 Mercedes roadster and she took an interest in the button down christian girl working the front desk. Did I mention that she also slept with a gun under her mattress? Geez what a coming out. One night after I closed down the gym and we hung out a while after that, I drove the 30 minutes to my parent's house where I was living again. This was in the country. As I got close to home, I felt uncomfortable about the distance the car behind me had been keeping so I past my driveway and went on a mile or so up the road to a turn about. The car behind me did the same thing. I drove slowly hoping they would pass me before I would come to the next turn around so I could get to my house, but they didn't. They followed me on that turn too. By that time, I was really scared, so I sped up and got to my dirt road driveway and went as fast as I could to get to my house. I busted in the door and went to my parent's room and told them that someone was following me. They called the sheriff, who by the way lived just up the road. The man that had followed me had gotten stuck because the dirt road has drop offs. The sheriff talked to him and he gave some story about being lost. My parents didn't know that I was gay at the time, so they didn't know the extra level of fear I was experiencing because I was pretty certain that man had followed me because he saw me with my girlfriend in the parking lot. That was 1994. Wow, that's not what I thought I was going to say when I started typing.
Thank you for sharing! I liked reading through this, and following that crush to fear tale. I know what it's like to be watched with another woman in public like you're either a fetish or a threat, luckily no one ever followed us home but I would have driven forever to avoid that. We always have to have awareness of everyone in a public space and around us. I'm so glad you were vigilant and safe.