You didn’t let yourself go. You let yourself heal and were able to move forward. Their opinions don’t matter when you’ve finally accepted who you are is lovable. An old biker I knew who very few people saw the real person under all those tats told me, “Fuck ‘em. All but 6… I’ll need pallbearers.”
What a gorgeous piece. Thank you for writing it! I went feral during quarantine, turned into my real self. It's hard for me now to fathom that until March of 2020, I woke up an hour early just to "get ready" for the day, full face of makeup, blow dry my hair into submission, put-together outfit, just to get my kids on the fucking school bus. They sell us insecurity for one reason only, and that's so we'll put our money into their pockets to fix what is not fucking broken. We weren't born hating ourselves. That was done to us by people who don't give one shit about us or our mental health. I've opted out, taken my power back. My body has worked like a fucking badass for all I've put her through in 53 years of life, and I'm grateful to her and wish to take good care of her and let her be exactly as she is. Additionally, by accepting my body as she is, even through the changes of menopause and the aging process, and just LIVING as I want to instead of hiding in shame, I'm maybe making another woman feel a little braver about doing the same.
(I clearly don't have any opinions on the subject. 😬🙄😂)
Love this piece and it's raw truthfulness from beginning to end. How I wish I had loved and accepted myself when I was younger… Perhaps this level of acceptance and even rejoicing in our non-perfect bodies is one of the gift of aging as well as therapy and medicine.
Why do we do this to ourselves? It’s the PaTrIArchY, baby! 🙃 When you hate yourself you do anything to feel loved—including buying shit you don’t need to fix “problems” like body hair and zits and allowing other people’s opinions to control how you show up in the world.
Honestly, it makes me sad when I see women super made up and wearing clothing that is clearly uncomfortable (or makes them feel that way). You can’t hide insecurity and self-hate with foundation and a crop top!
So glad you’ve found your way out of the matrix! I’m mostly out too, though, like the evangelical guilt, the bullshit wriggles its way into my thoughts on occasion.
You didn’t let yourself go. You let yourself heal and were able to move forward. Their opinions don’t matter when you’ve finally accepted who you are is lovable. An old biker I knew who very few people saw the real person under all those tats told me, “Fuck ‘em. All but 6… I’ll need pallbearers.”
Stay strong and true to yourself.
What a gorgeous piece. Thank you for writing it! I went feral during quarantine, turned into my real self. It's hard for me now to fathom that until March of 2020, I woke up an hour early just to "get ready" for the day, full face of makeup, blow dry my hair into submission, put-together outfit, just to get my kids on the fucking school bus. They sell us insecurity for one reason only, and that's so we'll put our money into their pockets to fix what is not fucking broken. We weren't born hating ourselves. That was done to us by people who don't give one shit about us or our mental health. I've opted out, taken my power back. My body has worked like a fucking badass for all I've put her through in 53 years of life, and I'm grateful to her and wish to take good care of her and let her be exactly as she is. Additionally, by accepting my body as she is, even through the changes of menopause and the aging process, and just LIVING as I want to instead of hiding in shame, I'm maybe making another woman feel a little braver about doing the same.
(I clearly don't have any opinions on the subject. 😬🙄😂)
Love this piece and it's raw truthfulness from beginning to end. How I wish I had loved and accepted myself when I was younger… Perhaps this level of acceptance and even rejoicing in our non-perfect bodies is one of the gift of aging as well as therapy and medicine.
Gorgeous. Thank you for writing this 🙏
Yessssss!!!! I love this!
You Go Girl 🙂🙂🙂🙂
Why do we do this to ourselves? It’s the PaTrIArchY, baby! 🙃 When you hate yourself you do anything to feel loved—including buying shit you don’t need to fix “problems” like body hair and zits and allowing other people’s opinions to control how you show up in the world.
Honestly, it makes me sad when I see women super made up and wearing clothing that is clearly uncomfortable (or makes them feel that way). You can’t hide insecurity and self-hate with foundation and a crop top!
So glad you’ve found your way out of the matrix! I’m mostly out too, though, like the evangelical guilt, the bullshit wriggles its way into my thoughts on occasion.
You hit it on the head!