Great advice. I’ve notice that this is close to the journey I’ve been on as a late bloomer.
Even though at times it feels like we’re in our teens again, fumbling around, trying to figure out how to speak to someone we think is cute. I think there is a benefit to be a late bloomer.
We are armed with all the knowledge of what we do and do not want from a relationship. Meaning, if we can actually get the courage to speak to beautiful women we get to see they aren’t just a crazy fantasy that we created. They’re not perfect… they have flaws. AND They’re as human as we are.
We can start out speaking to them as if we just want to be friends…first. Because we’re not operating just on the male idea of let’s have sex to see if we’re compatible. (I feel the older we are the less energy we have for this) It’s Let’s become friends to see if we’re compatible.
At the stage of the “game” we want our partner to be our friends. In my experience when I remember that it takes a lot of the pressure off.
Thank you Jenna!! Great article! I’m a late bloomer too and started a podcast, “Coming Out Late” and a community to allow we late bloomers to not feel so alone, offer supportive services AND Coming Out Late Retreats!! We are a lesser known or even talked about subset of the lgbtq+ family, (and growing ridiculously rapidly each week!)
Perhaps you’d like to consider coming on my podcast?
Great advice. I’ve notice that this is close to the journey I’ve been on as a late bloomer.
Even though at times it feels like we’re in our teens again, fumbling around, trying to figure out how to speak to someone we think is cute. I think there is a benefit to be a late bloomer.
We are armed with all the knowledge of what we do and do not want from a relationship. Meaning, if we can actually get the courage to speak to beautiful women we get to see they aren’t just a crazy fantasy that we created. They’re not perfect… they have flaws. AND They’re as human as we are.
We can start out speaking to them as if we just want to be friends…first. Because we’re not operating just on the male idea of let’s have sex to see if we’re compatible. (I feel the older we are the less energy we have for this) It’s Let’s become friends to see if we’re compatible.
At the stage of the “game” we want our partner to be our friends. In my experience when I remember that it takes a lot of the pressure off.
Thank you for sharing all of that
Hi Jenna—just wanted to say that your advice is spot on for straight girls, too.
Thanks! It really is the same for all of us. Learn who you are, love who you are, then find someone into you as you them 🖤
Thank you Jenna!! Great article! I’m a late bloomer too and started a podcast, “Coming Out Late” and a community to allow we late bloomers to not feel so alone, offer supportive services AND Coming Out Late Retreats!! We are a lesser known or even talked about subset of the lgbtq+ family, (and growing ridiculously rapidly each week!)
Perhaps you’d like to consider coming on my podcast?
Happy to if my tech is adequate!
Where’s your farm?
Upstate NY
Robin can you please message or email me this? I appreciate the comment but it’s too much for the public section.
I’m on the east side of the state from the southern Vermont border.
Yes, sorry ‘bout that. I lost myself. I deleted it. 🙏
This is great. You're a natural at writing self help. So what's the title of the book?
That’s very kind, and mostly I had to help myself a lot, so I’m just sharing what works for me! Please share it!